I have realised some important things and observed some other things while I was there.
1. Traveling is important. Travel as much as you can!
Ibiza is not the most cultural place of all, I grant you that. Even so, being away for five days made a huge difference on my mindset. I met new people, I experienced - even for a few days - a new lifestyle. I came back refreshed, open-minded, happy and with this sentiment I can conquer the world. It is hard to describe and priceless at the same time. I feel you can only get that kind of perspective when you go away. If you have to chose, spend on experiences, not on things!
2. Friendships need to be nurtured!
I went to Ibiza with some very good friends, I feel I had some real quality time with them and the kind of fun you can only have when you travel together. This definitely is a trip we will remember and it did not need to involve deep conversations about the meaning of life. Friendships should never be taken for granted. If you don't text, call, visit, meet up or travel together, there is no surprise there, one day you'll become strangers to these people you used to call friends.
3. Women can learn a thing or two from men's friendships
Men and women have a very different way of expressing their friendships. There is so much to say about it that I could write an entire book on it. I must say I admire men's friendships a lot. They can basically say everything to each other ("you put on 10kg, maybe you should consider doing something about it", "you shouldn't have dated my ex", "I want to date this girl please don't date her too", "I can't afford this restaurant let's go somewhere else"). All they have to do is make a joke about it. It will not sound too serious but the message will go through. Also, once an issue has been resolved, it is resolved, they don't need to come back to it and talk about it again and again and again. No hard feelings, moving on.
With women there is always so much drama, tears, gossips. It's so tiring and unnecessary. I am a woman too and I know I can be like that sometimes but I absolutely hate myself for it. This is why I have mostly male friends or excellent female friends - they just get the best out of me and not the worst. I used to be surrounded by "friends" who were constantly gossiping and arguing. I removed this toxicity from my life a long time ago now (incidentally felt a bit "friendless" for a few weeks) and never looked back.
4. We should be grateful for whatever we have, everyday.
We met this amazing woman on her birthday. We could not believe she was 44. She had told us the sum of the two figures of her age added up to 8 and we were seriously hesitating between 26 and 35. I asked her for the name of her face cream and she said, her secret was that she was happy and that everyday she was actively saying "today I am grateful for xx". It's obviously totally BS as to why she looked 15 years younger but I thought it was still a very cool concept and so I have been doing it for 4 days now. Happiness is a mindset!
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